Stop Sabotaging Yourself: The Letting Go Technique

Sometimes we sabotage ourselves and our best efforts. Often the source of this sabotage is our unconscious set of limiting beliefs. So the obvious question is: How do we get rid of limiting beliefs? The first step is just becoming aware of these unconscious saboteurs. By becoming aware, we have taken the first step towards release. For instance, you may have a hidden belief that you don’t measure up or are not worthy of success. That kind of hidden landmine will trip you up at the most inopportune moments. If you can quickly release that feeling of unworthiness, you are good to go. If not, however, there is another strong technique, called “Letting Go,” which I will describe in this post.

We all tend to either repress, express or project our feelings. When we repress a feeling, we, in essence, deny it and stuff it back down. Over the long term, this protects us from conflict but is not a healthy option as the repressed feelings accumulate. Expressing our feelings is an option, but sometimes it is inappropriate or harmful to do so. Projecting means attributing our feelings to a person or situation outside of ourselves. The “Letting Go” technique, as described below, is a tool to release unprocessed feelings. Without this mass of unprocessed feelings, your limiting beliefs will have no support and will crumble away.

The “Letting Go” technique, in a nutshell, is becoming aware of a feeling, letting it rise within you, staying present with it, then letting it run its course without wanting to change it. It sounds simple and it is, but you become better with practice. You just let the feeling be present and focus on releasing the energy behind it. The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling. Don’t resist it, vent it, fear it, condemn it, or moralize about it. Drop your judgment and observe that it is only a feeling. The technique is to be present with the feeling and release all efforts to change it in any way. Let go of the desire to resist the feeling. It is the resistance that makes the feeling keep going. When you give up resisting or trying to change the feeling, you will feel lighter, and you will move on to the next feeling. Eventually, the feeling will disappear if you don’t resist it. The energy behind the feeling will dissipate.

You can expand the technique by conducting an inner dialogue with yourself. Here is a sample progression:

  1. You’re not feeling so good emotionally. Maybe you are angry, sad, or have some other negative feeling.
  2. Ask yourself to fully experience the feeling and to be present with it. It is not necessary to name or analyze how you are feeling. Just be with the feeling entirely. Stay with it for a while or until it runs out. Ignore any thoughts that come up. Concentrate on the feelings only.
  3. Optionally, you can ask yourself “am I ready to release this feeling?” after a while. You should get an answer from within yourself. Yes and no are both fine. You can then ask yourself “when will I release this feeling?” Any answer is fine.

Once you release the feeling, there may be more to release later, or it may have entirely run out. It may be replaced by different emotions that you can also release. The important thing is to remember to be persistent and keep going. You are making progress even when it seems like you are not.

How will you know when you are fully surrendered on a particular topic? You will see when you can say “I am okay if it happens and okay if it doesn’t.” Don’t mistake that state for ambivalence or passivity. The surrendered state is potent for being in the world and manifesting your desires.

The letting go technique should be used daily to release negative feelings. But don’t stop there! Once you become practiced with it, you will be able to release instantaneously as the negative feelings come up.

What I’ve noticed after using this technique, is that the feelings that come up for release may or may not be directly related to the situation you are currently experiencing. Your current state may be a trigger for bringing up repressed material to be let go. Also, you will get better at identifying where in your body the feelings register.

You can use this technique to release cravings, strong desires, and other obsessive tendencies. One mistaken idea that people often have is that you need a strong desire to get what you want. The truth is that strong desire or cravingness can often block the receiving of what you are looking for. This technique will allow you to “drain off” excess desire so that you will feel better and also be able to manifest what you want.

If you want more information on this beautiful technique and variations of it, I have listed two references below:

Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by Dr. David Hawkins

The Sedona Method

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